Love You Like the Sky: Surviving the Suicide of a Beloved by Sarah Neustadter
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
I had a unique opportunity through the Booksharks community to review an advanced copy of Love You Like the Sky which publishes on June 4th! Pre-order from Amazon here!
One night in November 2008, John laid down next to the train tracks and took his own life. Devastated, his girlfriend Sarah begins to send John emails expressing her emotions surrounding his suicide. This book is a collection of those emails. They detail Sarah’s journey from “despair” to “shifting” to “beauty” and her walk through the stages of grief: shock, bargaining, depression, anger, and acceptance.
I must say that I’m not personally a suicide survivor so there were parts of the book that I couldn’t personally relate to, but I can definitely see how somebody with personal ties to suicide or people trying to provide support would benefit immensely from this book. Sarah does such a great job displaying her real, raw, unfiltered, and unapologetic emotions, sending the message, “You are not alone. I felt this pain. There is hope at the end of the tunnel.”
I personally enjoyed that she broke this book into three separate and distinct sections that may be applicable to different people based on the stage of grief they’re currently experiencing. And at the end of each section, she gives helpful advice and tips on ways to work through the emotional trauma. There is a little bit of something for everybody with all different belief systems. Sarah discusses her psychic abilities and clairvoyance which aren’t things that I personally believe in, but I can appreciate the value that it may provide to somebody else.
Having experienced a miscarriage last year I was hoping to garner some pearls of wisdom on how to work through the grief associated with that experience. There were little morsels along the way that I picked up and will take with me so I appreciate Sarah for that. But by and large, this is a book about surviving the suicide of a loved one and the content is specifically targeted to that audience so it’s not entirely translatable to other forms of grief.
If you’re a suicide survivor or are supporting a suicide survivor, I would highly recommend this book. Even if you can only make it through the “despair” portion and aren’t yet ready to process the “shifting” section. You may be able to come back to it at a later date and work your way through the content in a way that is meaningful as you process your trauma.
-I received an advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. Thank you to the Booksharks community, SparkPress, and Sarah Neustadter for the opportunity to review.-